The Hallmark of a Cultured Personality

COURTESY 

Samuel Johnson once said, “To cultivate kindness is a valuable part of the business of life.” Although spoken in the 18th century, his wisdom still glows with the same warmth today. In a world where people rush toward success, many forget the simple strength of gentle speech. Harshness may win arguments, but it rarely wins hearts. A soft word, on the other hand, works like a golden glue—mending, soothing and building bridges where roughness only creates walls.

Courtesy is not just politeness; it is a reflection of inner goodness. As philosopher John Locke observed, gentle words prevent the stubbornness that harsh treatment often creates. When we speak kindly, we soften the bitterness in others, calm storms before they form, and leave behind a trail of goodwill.

Interestingly, truly kind people often carry a youthful glow. We may assume their secret is exercise, clean eating or early sleep. But their real secret is their inner response to life. Kindness brightens their features like a quiet lamp, releasing joy from within. When the heart is soft, the spirit stays young.

Living with courtesy transforms our personality. We become more confident, more capable and more connected. People feel naturally drawn to those who radiate warmth. Friendships deepen, professional relationships become stronger and new opportunities arrive gently, like birds landing on an inviting branch.

When we choose kindness, the universe responds. Answers come to us—sometimes instantly, sometimes gradually—as if our inner reservoir of wisdom has opened. By developing the habit of “looking within,” we learn to trust this quiet source of guidance. Asking with faith never leaves us disappointed.

A simple way to begin is to dedicate just one day to practice courtesy consciously. Smile, thank, pause to help, and look for small chances to brighten someone's path. Confucius once said that good manners are the outer expression of a good heart. In today’s hurried world, even a small gesture—a held door, a patient wait, a gentle tone—can be a rare gift.

Such tiny acts travel far. They stay in minds, soften days, and sometimes even change a life. 

Opportunities to be kind appear everywhere—in a word, a glance, a tone, or a touch. Life is not built only on grand achievements but on simple smiles and everyday kindness.

Courtesy enriches the giver as much as the receiver. It polishes the personality, opens doors of understanding, and fills life with a gentle radiance. In social life, these small acts are sparks that warm the world.

Truly, courtesy is the hallmark of a cultured and developed personality—one that shines not through what it owns, but through what it gives.

Lessons Wrapped in Wisdom

BITTER WORDS FROM ELDERS 

Sometimes, the most painful words from elders are the ones that stay with us the longest. They sting, yet they carry truth — truth that guides, humbles, and protects us in the long run. Here are some timeless lessons spoken with sharp honesty and deep wisdom.

1️⃣ Nobody respects a rag until their shoes are dirty.

So stay in your corner. Don’t beg people to see your worth.

When the time comes, no one will need to be told — they’ll come looking for you.

✨ Your value does not decrease just because others fail to see it.

2️⃣ Don’t be too available.

Sometimes, “long time no see” is better than “here comes that annoying person again.”

Value your presence. Let people miss you.

🌿 Distance can deepen respect.

3️⃣ Control your anger — it’s only one letter away from danger.

Silence has never started a war, but anger often has.

🔥 Peace isn’t weakness; it’s power under control.

4️⃣ Don’t show everyone your wounds.

Not everyone carries a bandage;

some carry salt and vinegar to make it hurt even more.

🕊️ Choose your listeners wisely — not everyone deserves your truth.

5️⃣ Never plant thorns on someone’s path.

Your children might walk that same road barefoot one day.

🌾 What you sow today, your family may reap tomorrow.

6️⃣ Never let anyone recruit you into their hatred.

Don’t hate a person who has done you no harm.

Bitterness borrowed is bitterness owned.

🌙 Carry peace in your heart — it lightens every journey.

7️⃣ Don’t compare your life to others.

There’s no competition between the sun and the moon — they shine when it’s their time.

☀️ Patience is knowing that your time will come too.

8️⃣ Don’t speak too soon.

What looks like a curse today may be a blessing in disguise tomorrow.

🌧️ Life unfolds its meaning slowly — let it reveal itself.

9️⃣ Don’t expect loyalty from those who gossip with you.

If they can speak ill of others in your presence, they’ll speak ill of you in your absence.

⚖️ Character is revealed in silence, not in stories.

🔟 Never forget your roots.

The fruit that forgets its tree soon rots.

🌳 Stay humble, no matter how high you grow.

In the end, bitter words from elders are like medicine — unpleasant to taste, but healing in effect.

Listen closely, reflect deeply, and let these truths shape you into someone wiser, calmer, and kinder than yesterday.

The best medicine for a troubled mind

WORK 

“Work is always an antidote to depression.” 

--- Eleanor Roosevelt

Depression is one of the most silent yet powerful mental illnesses affecting millions of people around the world. It is often called the silent killer because it takes lives without warning, punishment, or sympathy. Depression can strike anyone, irrespective of age, gender, or social background. It brings with it a deep and persistent feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and fatigue.

However, overcoming depression is not impossible. Once its root cause is understood, recovery becomes possible. The reasons behind depression vary from person to person, but one common path toward healing exists — work. Engaging the mind and body in meaningful activity can help divert attention from pain and sadness, giving a new sense of direction and purpose.

At first, this idea may seem strange, especially since overwork can sometimes cause stress. Yet, the right kind of work — productive, creative, or purposeful — becomes the very medicine that heals the mind. Work doesn’t just mean a job; it can include studying, teaching, painting, gardening, playing a sport, or pursuing any hobby that brings joy.

There is a well-known saying: “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.” When the mind is idle, negative thoughts easily take over. In depression, this idleness can become dangerous, as the mind repeatedly returns to painful thoughts. But when a person begins to work — even on a small task or hobby — the mind shifts its focus. The act of doing something new releases dopamine, a chemical in the brain that creates feelings of pleasure and motivation. This small spark can reignite enthusiasm and restore purpose.

Human beings are naturally reward-oriented. When we see progress or success, no matter how small, our minds feel rewarded, motivating us to continue. In depression, people often feel as if their efforts bring no rewards. That’s the right moment to switch paths — to start something new where there is a fresh chance to grow and achieve. Success in even a small endeavor can rejuvenate the mind and spirit.

When a person is depressed, their mental energy turns inward, creating negativity and exhaustion. But once they begin to engage in work — such as exercise, running, painting, or even organising daily routines — that energy is redirected toward positive action. Physical work, in particular, releases endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, which improve sleep, reduce stress, and enhance overall well-being. A busy schedule also brings structure to life, reminding us of our worth and how much we can still achieve.

Sports are an excellent example of how work relieves depression. Playing a game builds teamwork, social connection, and discipline — all of which replace loneliness with a sense of belonging and achievement. When social connections increase, depression naturally decreases.

A similar principle is seen in military training academies. New cadets, fresh from civilian life, often find the strict routine and physical demands overwhelming. Yet, their intense daily schedule leaves no room for idle thoughts. Continuous work and discipline build not only physical fitness but also mental resilience. Depression gets no opportunity to take root because the cadets are constantly engaged in purposeful action.

The same applies to life. Problems and failures are unavoidable, but they can be overcome only through consistent effort and perseverance. When depression tries to block our path, the only way forward is to work — to keep moving, fighting, and finding new paths that life always opens for us. Those who do so become stronger and more successful.

It’s natural to feel low at times, but it’s equally important to forgive ourselves and make a fresh start. Take the example of a cricketer who fails in several matches and feels under pressure. Instead of giving up, he continues to practice and improve his skills. Eventually, his hard work pays off, and success returns. His dedication — his “work” — becomes his antidote to stress and depression.

Life is meant to move forward, not stay stuck in sadness. Work gives us direction, purpose, and satisfaction. It fills our time, trains our mind, and keeps our emotions balanced. Happiness is not something to be found elsewhere — it lies hidden in the things we do, in the effort we make every day.

Thus, as Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Work is always an antidote to depression.”

To work is to live, to hope, and to heal.

The happiness formula

KICK OUT THE 3 EVIL C’s, WELCOME THE 3 POSITIVE P’s

Happiness is something all of us seek, but very often we unknowingly block our own path to it. One big reason is the kind of energy we give and receive in our daily lives. Our interactions—what we say, how we react, and how we behave—deeply affect both ourselves and others. While we all want positive energy from people around us, we often forget that our own actions also send out energy that either uplifts or drains others.

To truly become positive, we must consciously get rid of the three evil C’s: Complain, Compare, and Criticise. These three habits not only spoil relationships but also reduce our own happiness and peace of mind.

What are the three evil C’s?

The three evil C’s—complain, compare, and criticise—are habits that trap us in negativity. When these dominate our thoughts and actions:

● We start competing unnecessarily with friends, peers, and relatives.

● We complain about situations rather than working towards solutions.

● We criticise people instead of supporting them.

These behaviours may seem small, but they silently damage our friendships, lower our confidence, disturb our focus, and add unnecessary pressure to life.

1. What is Complaining?

Complaining is expressing dissatisfaction about things, often without taking steps to improve them. It’s easy to complain, but it doesn’t solve the problem—it only amplifies our frustration.

Life is full of unexpected situations, and not everything will go as planned. The real test is how we respond:

■ Do we complain endlessly, focusing on the negatives?

■ Or do we adapt, stay calm, and try to find solutions?

People who complain constantly fail to see opportunities. On the other hand, those who learn to accept and adjust radiate positivity and inspire others.

2. What is Comparing?

Comparison is natural—we all do it. Sometimes it’s even useful, like comparing products before buying the best one. But when it comes to people, comparison can be harmful.

Each individual is unique. When we compare ourselves with others—whether it’s marks, skills, looks, or achievements—we only bring unhappiness. Someone will always be better at something, and that’s okay.Instead of comparing, we should:

■ Focus on our own strengths.

■ Celebrate our uniqueness.

■ Work on developing our talents.

Remember: Your biggest competitor is not someone else, but the person you were yesterday.

3. What is Criticising?

Criticism, when negative, is the most harmful of the three C’s. It is about finding faults in others, pulling them down, or making their efforts look small.

Often, criticism stems from jealousy or insecurity. For example:

■ A friend scores better in a test—you dismiss it as luck instead of appreciating their hard work.

■ A classmate joins dance classes—you laugh at their mistakes instead of encouraging their enthusiasm.

Such behavior damages trust, friendships, and confidence. Constructive feedback is healthy, but destructive criticism spreads only negativity.

How to Get Rid of the Three Evil C’s?

The good news is that these habits can be changed. Here’s how:

1. Replace Complaining with Gratitude:

Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, think about what’s right. A gratitude journal—writing down three good things every day—can train your mind to see positives.

2. Replace Comparing with Self-Improvement:

Compete with yourself, not others. Set personal goals and measure your progress. This way, every achievement, however small, feels meaningful.

3. Replace Criticising with Encouragement:

Encourage and appreciate people for their efforts. A simple “Well done!” or “Keep going, you’re improving!” can make someone’s day and strengthen bonds.

Final Thoughts: The three evil C’s—complain, compare, and criticise—might seem harmless in the moment, but over time they steal our peace, positivity, and happiness. By consciously avoiding them, we not only become better individuals but also spread positivity in our families, classrooms, and communities.

Life is too short to waste on negativity. Choose gratitude over complaints, self-growth over comparisons, and encouragement over criticism. In doing so, you’ll find that happiness isn’t something you chase—it’s something you create.

✨ Happiness begins when we let go of the three evil C’s and embrace the three positive P’s: Peace, Progress, and Positivity.

Different, Not Less

THE POWER OF SPECIAL ABILITIES 

In the journey of human civilisation, diversity has always been its strength. One of the most profound forms of diversity is the existence of individuals with special abilities—commonly referred to as "persons with disabilities". While the term “disability” often highlights the challenges these individuals face, calling them “specially-abled” shifts the focus to their strengths, talents, and the unique perspectives they bring to society.

Types of Special Abilities

Special abilities may emerge early in childhood or later in life due to accidents, diseases, or other circumstances. While there are many forms, they are generally classified into four broad categories:

1. Visual Impairments

This includes complete or partial loss of vision. With the help of assistive technologies like Braille, screen readers, and white canes, visually impaired individuals lead independent and productive lives.

2. Hearing Impairments

This includes partial or total inability to hear. Many use sign language, lip reading, or hearing aids to communicate. Communities around the world are now promoting inclusive practices, such as using subtitles and sign language interpreters in public events.

3. Mental or Intellectual Disabilities

These refer to conditions that affect a person’s cognitive abilities or mental health. Autism spectrum disorder, Down syndrome, and other intellectual challenges fall under this category. With proper care, inclusive education, and therapeutic support, individuals with mental disabilities can flourish in their own capacities.

4. Physical Disabilities

These are impairments that affect mobility or physical functioning, such as paralysis, cerebral palsy, or amputation. Adaptive equipment like wheelchairs, prosthetics, and accessible infrastructure can drastically improve the quality of life.

Though these are broad categories, it is important to remember that every individual’s experience is unique and cannot be generalised.

Why are they called 'Specially-Abled'?

The term “specially-abled” celebrates the strengths and capabilities of individuals rather than focusing on their limitations. Here are some qualities commonly observed in specially-abled individuals:

Resilience: They often develop immense emotional strength and determination while navigating daily challenges.

Creativity: Finding innovative ways to interact with the world makes many specially-abled individuals highly creative thinkers.

Problem-Solving Abilities: They are often adept at troubleshooting and finding alternate routes in situations where conventional solutions don’t work.

Patience and Perseverance: Their journey teaches them to be patient and persistent—traits that are invaluable in all walks of life.

Unique Talents: Many people with learning disabilities possess exceptional talents in music, art, mathematics, and logical reasoning.

Agility and Adaptability: Adjusting to different circumstances enhances their agility in both physical and mental tasks.

Openness and Empathy: Having faced social and personal challenges, they often develop deep empathy and understanding for others.

Forethought: Living with a disability often requires planning ahead, which makes them excellent at organization and time management.

Support and Inclusion: The need of the hour

Recognising these strengths is just the beginning. To truly empower individuals with special abilities, we must:

Provide inclusive education systems that accommodate diverse learning styles.

Ensure accessible public infrastructure, including ramps, lifts, tactile walkways, and accessible restrooms.

Offer employment opportunities and workplace accommodations that allow them to thrive.

Promote positive representation in media, literature, and leadership roles.

Encourage community support, understanding, and empathy from the general public.

Inspiring Examples

History is filled with remarkable individuals who have proved that disability is not a barrier to greatness:

Helen Keller, who was blind and deaf, became an author and activist who inspired millions.

Stephen Hawking, despite suffering from ALS(Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), made groundbreaking contributions to physics.

Sudha Chandran, an acclaimed Indian dancer and actress, continued her career with a prosthetic leg.

Beethoven, one of the greatest composers of all time, was deaf in his later years but continued to create music.

Conclusion: Specially-abled individuals are not to be pitied or sidelined. They are to be acknowledged, supported, and celebrated for their abilities, courage, and contributions. By building an inclusive society that respects and empowers every individual—regardless of ability—we enrich humanity as a whole. Let us move beyond barriers and towards equal opportunity, dignity, and respect for all.

A Natural Way to Heal Your Mind and Body

🌳FOREST BATH🌳

In today’s fast-paced and digital world, many of us are constantly surrounded by screens, noise, stress, and pollution. But did you know that just walking in a forest or spending quiet time among trees can help you feel calm, fresh, and healthy?

This wonderful practice is called a Forest Bath.

What is Forest Bathing?

Forest Bathing (originally called Shinrin-yoku in Japanese) means “bathing in the forest atmosphere” — not with water, but with your senses. It is the simple act of being in nature, mindfully experiencing the sights, sounds, smells, and feelings of the forest.

You don’t need to hike or exercise. You just need to slow down, breathe deeply, and enjoy being surrounded by trees.

How Do You Do It?

🌲 Visit a forest, garden, or green park

🚶‍♀️ Walk slowly and silently

👀 Observe the colours and shapes of leaves, trees, and flowers

👃 Smell the earthy scent of the woods

👂 Listen to birds chirping or leaves rustling

🤲 Touch the bark of a tree or the softness of moss

📵 Keep gadgets away and be fully present

It’s about connecting with nature through your five senses.

💚 Benefits of Forest Bathing

🌬️ Reduces stress and anxiety

🧠 Improves focus and memory

❤️ Lowers blood pressure and boosts immunity

😊 Makes you feel happier and more peaceful

💤 Improves sleep

🌿 Inspires creativity and mindfulness

Even just 20 minutes a week in a natural green space can make a difference in how you feel!

Forests Are Our Friends: Spending time in a forest not only helps our body and mind, but also reminds us how important it is to protect nature. Trees give us clean air, water, and shelter for animals. When we spend time in forests, we also become more grateful and responsible towards the environment.

Conclusion: In a world full of noise, forests offer silence. In a life full of stress, they offer peace. A forest bath is not a luxury — it is a simple gift from nature that is free and healing.

So next time you feel tired, sad, or stressed — don’t scroll your phone. Take a slow walk in the garden or under the trees. Let nature be your doctor.

🧘‍♀️ Take a forest bath and feel your soul smile 💚

C your way to the top

 11 Cs OF SUCCESS 🌟

1. Clarity🔍

Know exactly what you want. Clear goals give direction and purpose to your efforts. Without clarity, you’re just wandering.

2. Confidence abilities💪

Believe in yourself and your abilities. Confidence fuels action and helps you face challenges without fear.

3. Commitment📌

Stick to your goals, no matter how tough it gets. Success requires consistent effort over time.

4. Courage🦁

Take risks, face failures, and try again. It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and grow.

5. Consistency⏳

Small actions repeated regularly lead to big results. Consistency beats occasional brilliance.

6. Creativity🎨

Think differently. Come up with new ideas and find better ways to solve problems.

7. Character🧭

Be honest, responsible, and respectful. Character builds trust and defines how people remember you.

8. Competence🛠️

Master your skills and keep learning. Being good at what you do builds confidence and opens doors.

9. Communication🗣️

Express yourself clearly and listen well. Strong communication builds relationships and avoids misunderstandings.

10. Collaboration🤝

Work well with others. Teamwork helps you achieve more than you could alone.

11. Contribution🌱

Give back. Help others succeed too. When you contribute to the world, success becomes meaningful.

Final Thought 📝 

Success isn’t just about marks or medals — it’s about growing into a confident, kind, capable person. These 11 Cs act like guiding stars. Try to nurture each one a little every day, and you’ll find yourself moving steadily toward success.

When the heart is humble

GOD'S GRACE IS ENOUGH 

In life, we often face challenges where our own strength feels insufficient. At such times, we turn to God for help. But what kind of help does God give? Does He solve our problems directly, or does He empower us to solve them ourselves? In such situations, God’s grace works and humility is the key to receiving it.

What is Grace?

The word grace means kindness or favour. In the Bible, it comes from the Hebrew word channun. In Hinduism, the closest word is Kripa, meaning divine mercy or blessings.

The Bible teaches two important things about grace:

“Let us confidently come to the throne of Grace, so we may receive mercy and help in times of need.” (Hebrews)

“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (James)

These lines tell us that God’s grace is available, but it comes especially to those who are humble.

God’s Grace Doesn’t Mean Doing Our Work

When we face problems, we often pray to God for solutions. But grace doesn’t mean God will magically do our work. Instead, grace might give us strength, remove fear, guide us, or awaken enthusiasm within us. In short, grace helps us help ourselves.

A powerful example of grace and humility comes from this story from the Mahabharat. When peace talks between the Pandavas and Kauravas failed, war was about to begin. Both sides wanted Lord Krishna's support.

Duryodhan and Arjun both went to Dwaraka to ask for Krishna's help. Duryodhan arrived first and, while Krishna was sleeping, sat near his head on a luxurious seat — a sign of pride. Arjun arrived later and quietly stood near Krishna’s feet — a sign of respect and humility.

When Krishna woke up, he saw Arjun first and gave him the first choice. Krishna offered two options:

1. His powerful army

2. Himself, unarmed and not fighting

Duryodhan chose the army, thinking it would ensure victory. Arjun chose Krishna, happy just to have his guidance, even if Krishna wouldn't fight.

What Happened Next?

Though Duryodhan had a massive army and great warriors like Bhishma, Drona, and Karna, he was defeated in the war. The Pandavas had fewer soldiers, but they had something greater — Krishna’s grace.

At every critical moment, Krishna guided them — helping them overcome Bhishma, Drona, Karna, and Jayadratha. His wisdom and presence made all the difference.

The Moral of the Story

This story teaches us an important lesson:

Pride leads to downfall, but humility invites divine support.

Arjun’s humility won him God’s grace, which was far more powerful than any army. Duryodhan’s pride blinded him, and despite all his strength, he lost everything.

In our own lives, we may not fight wars, but we do face struggles. When we remain humble and open-hearted, God’s grace can guide us, strengthen us, and lead us to victory — even when the odds seem against us. Remember: Grace is enough — when the heart is humble.

Life is like a sport

LIVE LIFE SPORTINGLY 

Wanting to play is a natural trait; we can see it in every child. Children are more their original selves when they play than when they study. They wait for every chance to play with their mates, unmindful of even eating or sleeping. There is so much cheer and joy when children run about, trying to catch and evade. There is never a need to force children to play because playing is joy, and who doesn’t want joy?

Sports, as a formalised platform to play, happened as the human civilisation evolved, and several games and their structures came about. While we know the thrill of playing a sport and the thrill of watching people play, there are several intricacies that the field of sports can reveal to us as life’s lessons. The field in which a game is played is akin to the field of life.There are teams of which some people favour us on our side and several others oppose us on the other side. This is similar to how different people interact with us differently in our lives at different times. Not everyone is a friend all the time; not everyone is a foe all the time. Different people relate with us in different ways in the field of life too, and their ways and behaviours towards us vary from time to time.

There are wicketkeepers, goalkeepers, catchers, and counter-attackers who constantly target our moves and try to prevent us from reaching our goals. Even in the sport of life, we face several challenges, both inside and outside, that elude us and hinder our progress.

There are dolly catches and the most difficult catches. Sometimes, we get the ‘golden ducks’, and other times, we last on the field till the game calls it a day. Sometimes, we are the tail-enders, and other times, we are the openers. Sometimes there are those slower balls that seem promising but end up deceiving us, and many times we may also be skittled out soon. Oftentimes, we may receive the jaffa (the unplayable ball), which is difficult to handle, and other times, we may be playing the same to someone, making it difficult for them to handle. Beamers and bouncers could be coming our way, too.

There are moments of victory when we least expect it and moments of failure despite our efforts. We are sometimes blamed, and other times praised. We are sometimes the star, and other times, we are no one. There are times when an opponent becomes a friend, and a  friend turns out to be less friendly.

At the end of it all, when the game ends, we shake hands with each other, looking eye to eye, knowing well that it was just a game and that everyone played their parts to perfection, giving their all and sweating their body. The happiness of our opponent in our loss and their desperation to bring an end to our game, in fact, made our game more interesting and made us strive to do our very best. It wouldn’t be half as interesting if there were no opponents to play with us. A game is a game only when there is a melange of all kinds of experiences, and none of it comes our way without a reason, and none of it is hence a bad experience.

Everything that happens throughout, all the time, is helping us in our progress and journey. It is with this understanding that we must look at the game of life. Loss and gain, pain and pleasure, betrayal and trust, friendship and animosity, judgements and acceptance, love and hatred—all these opposites do exist all the time. But remember, the ones who love you and the ones who don’t as much are both helping you. In fact, the person who criticises you and condemns you is playing an important part in your progress because he is playing the bad cop and pushing you beyond your comfort zone.

Here is how you can sport life: 

#Be aware that ‘Life is a game’. Everyone is just playing their role. 

#Be alert and keep your focus on the lessons you can derive from every situation and every person.

#Your mind can be your friend or enemy. Always befriend your mind and gradually master it.

#You are here for a purpose. Focus on your goal without getting distracted. 

#Do not hanker after fame, wealth, positions, possessions, reputation and remarks. They come and go.

#Delve into your true self and be yourself. This is your true worth.

#Your treasure is within you. Derive strength from within and blossom from within.

#Thank everyone, every situation, everything—everything has been carefully orchestrated to help you.

#Smile and take it easy. Unburden yourself of excessive thinking and analysis, negativities and notions, prejudices and plans.

#Never give up. You must finish the game that you have started even if you are to lose.

#Correct yourself before trying to correct others.

#There is a message in life’s every turn, and it is for you to catch it, contemplate on it, and take corrective action. Be a good sport in life, just like you would aspire to be on the game field. Play the game of life out of passion for life and living, learn and grow, be wise and keep an observant eye on life’s positive sides. 

Have a good playtime on the field of games and life, too!

The best method for setting priorities

A-B-C-D-E

All successful people focus their time and energy on their work of highest value. Good performance is about the capacity to focus and concentrate on the job of top priority. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by too many things to do and too little time in which to do them, sit down, take a deep breath, and list all those tasks you need to accomplish.

The best method for setting priorities is the A-B-C-D-E Method.

“A” stands for “very important”, something you must do. It is going to decide your success or failure.

“B” stands for “important”, something you should do. This is not as important as your ‘A’ tasks.

“C” stands for things that are “nice to do”, but which are not as important as ‘A’ or ‘B’ tasks.

“D” stands for “delegate.” You can assign this task to someone else who can do the job instead of you.

“E” stands for “eliminate, whenever possible.” You should eliminate every single activity you possibly can, to free up your time.

When you use the A-B-C-D-E method, you can very easily sort out what is important and unimportant. This then will make us be focused on those items on your list that are most essential for you to do.

Six powerful teachers

WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, WHY and HOW

Knowing the answers will help you in school. Knowing how to ask questions will help you in life.- Warren Berger

Questioning, a life skill: Questioning is the ability to organise our thinking around what we don’t know. This is an essential skill today. Doubting the existence of something is always a good habit, as in doing so, we are led to question, and by questioning, we arrive at the truth.

Questioning is the fountainhead of knowledge. In the early days, people wondered as to who created the world and arrived at the simplified explanation that one was created by a supernatural being. But as more people searched further for the how and why, more civilised our society got. We questioned why some animals resemble some others, and got the answer that all animals have evolved from a common ancestor. We proved that we are not created but we have evolved over 3.5 billion years. All the knowledge we possess is the product of questioning. Questioning is not the exclusive right of the police detectives, it is a universal skill. Your calibre of questions is assessed more critically than the answers provided by parents, teachers and friends.

Six teachers: Questioning gives you answers that will make you resourceful in science, maths, geography and even in various languages. WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, WHY and HOW are the six powerful teachers.

For instance, have you ever taken time to observe your surroundings or the sky? Especially in the twilight and night sky, have you noticed the four stars in the early evening sky? Have you wondered what they are? Indeed , these are not stars, they are planets, Venus, Mars, Jupiter and Saturn. You know that the brightest one is Venus, but have you questioned why Venus is so bright? And have ever wondered what that red planet is? The red one is Mars, and it appears red as it has iron oxide on its surface.

Questioning can lead to understanding delightful facts about our world, and it can be a source of much wonder and joy, giving us contentment and pride. This curiosity further motivates you to ask more questions, which is where we summon our six teachers.

The art of questioning: The art of questioning can be mastered with practice. You may just listen to the questioning of well-known personalities on television. Questions must be constructed and asked logically in such a way that the motive of what you want to know is communicated to the person being questioned. One must also question keeping in mind niceties and the sensitive nature of certain information and questions.

Basic questions: Questioning has changed the history of humankind. Concepts like gravity, earth’s rotation on its orbit and revolution around the sun were all the answers arrived at by people who relentlessly asked questions about it and sought answers. Similarly, if you begin questioning your life too can change. Some of the life changing questions that you should ask are: Who am I? Am I related with people around me? What do I want to do and get from my life? How can I contribute to my world, school or my house? What are my strengths and weaknesses? Where am I? and Where do I want to reach? Such questions will help you to change the course if necessary and keep you on the right course.

Question everything: He who asks a question is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask a question remains a fool forever. If you question everything, you will not believe in many things that you believe in today. Questioning is the mother of knowledge. Never stop questioning.

BALANCED MINDSET

Maturity 

Maturity is a mindset, not an age. While society often associates maturity with getting older, the truth is that maturity has more to do with how you think, react, and handle life’s challenges than with the number of years you’ve lived. Maturity is about the choices you make, the way you approach situations, and the level of responsibility you take for your actions. It’s a mindset that can be developed at any age, and it’s what truly defines your character.

One of the key elements of a mature mindset is the ability to see beyond yourself. Mature people understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them, and they consider the perspectives and needs of others when making decisions. This doesn’t mean they always put others first to the detriment of their own well-being, but they have the wisdom to balance their needs with those of others. They recognise that actions have consequences, not just for themselves but for those around them, and they act with this awareness in mind.

Maturity also involves emotional regulation. Life is full of situations that can trigger strong emotions, whether it’s frustration, anger, sadness, or joy. Mature people do not let these emotions dictate their actions. Instead, they have the ability to manage their feelings, staying calm and composed even in difficult situations. This emotional stability allows them to make decisions based on logic and reason rather than being driven by impulsive reactions.

Another important aspect of maturity is the willingness to take responsibility for one’s actions. Mature people do not shy away from accountability. They understand that every choice they make has a consequence, and they are willing to own those consequences, whether positive or negative. This sense of responsibility extends to their relationships, work, and personal goals. They don’t blame others for their mistakes or failures but instead look within to understand how they can improve and grow.

Maturity also means being able to learn from experiences. Life is a series of lessons, and mature people approach each experience as an opportunity for growth. Whether a situation goes well or poorly, they reflect on what happened and think about how they can apply those lessons in the future. This mindset prevents them from repeating the same mistakes over and over because they are continually evolving and becoming better versions of themselves.

Patience is another hallmark of a mature mindset. Mature people understand that not everything happens on their timeline. They are able to wait for the right moment, knowing that some things take time to develop. This patience extends to how they interact with others as well. They don’t rush to judgment or react hastily but take the time to consider all aspects of a situation before making decisions.

Maturity is also reflected in how someone handles conflict. Mature people don't avoid conflict but approach it with a problem-solving attitude. They don’t engage in petty arguments or seek to “win” at all costs. Instead, they focus on finding resolutions that are fair and constructive. They communicate openly and honestly, seeking to understand the other person’s point of view while also expressing their own.

In essence, maturity is about growth. It’s about recognising that life is a journey of learning, and that every experience, good or bad, is an opportunity to become wiser, stronger, and more compassionate.  Mature people don't ’t cling to rigid ideas or behaviours; they are flexible and open to change because they understand that growth requires adaptation.

Maturity isn’t something that automatically comes with age. Some young people exhibit remarkable maturity, while some older individuals may still struggle with impulsiveness and self-centredness. The difference lies in mindset. Choosing to be mature means choosing to live with responsibility, empathy, and a commitment to personal growth. It’s a way of thinking and living that allows you to navigate life’s challenges with grace and wisdom, making choices that reflect not just who you are, but who you aspire to become.

EACH ONE IS A MASTERPIECE OF GOD

Everybody deserves to be somebody

The reception clerk in a posh hotel looked down at a small man who had just asked for a room. The customer looked so unimpressive that the clerk told him immediately that no rooms were available. About that time the hotel manager came out of his office to the desk, recognised the man and called the clerk aside. He whispered to her that the man asking the room was Pierre Monteaux, who, for many years, was the distinguished conductor of the San Francisco Symphony Orchestra. 

The clerk came back to the desk, apologised, and said, "Why, of course, sir, we can take care of you! Why didn't you tell me you were somebody, Mr Monteaux?"

Whereupon Maestro Monteaux emphatically told the clerk, "Madam, everybody is somebody." And he quickly turned to leave the hotel. 

Never be afraid to help others in their time of need, nor ever treat others with scorn; whoever they be. You never know when you may need that shoulder to lean on. It is said, "Every time you mistreat someone, you reveal the part of you that lacks love and needs to heal." Yes, everybody is somebody because each one is a masterpiece of God, moreover, a child of God. Everyone deserves respect. 

Too many of us, in our daily life, fall into the shameful pattern of ranking people especially by their looks, and judging someone as nobodies! Let us treat people the way we want to be treated, and talk to people the way we want to be talked to. Likewise, let us all try to be somebody who makes everybody feel like somebody!

KEEP MOVING FORWARD

Dealing with setbacks 

There may be days when you feel sad of unexpected setbacks. Your marks may not be up to your expectations. Your parents may not be able to offer the support you expected from them.There are times when people disappoint you and let you down. Even your best friend might have behaved in a rude way.

But these are the times when you must remind yourself to be confident of yourself. If you believe in yourself and continue fighting for what you want, then people will understand you and they will be kind to you.

Recognise that dealing with failures and setbacks is a part of moving forward. No one wants to fail, but thinking that you will never fail is unrealistic. Take responsibility for your part in the failure so that you can learn from it.

Successful people didn’t get there automatically. They had to overcome many obstacles. They built enormous self-confidence during the days of their struggle. 

● Albert Einstein could not talk before the age of four.

● Winston Churchill had to repeat a school year.

● Beethoven was scolded that he would never become a composer.

● Thomas Edison’s teacher told him: “ You are not worth enough for school education”.

● Walt Disney was fired because he wasn’t creative. 

But they all made it! Think of them as being your silent mentors.

Whatever setbacks you are experiencing, whatever people say about you, keep on believing in yourself. Analyse the reasons for your set back, change your strategy and move on.

Remember the words of the famous television commentator, David Brinkley: “ A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her.

WISE ADVICE

Guard yourself against manipulators

Once upon a time, a kind Brahmin (a priest) was given a goat. The goat was a gift for performing a ritual. He decided to carry the goat home on his shoulders. Three clever thieves saw him walking through the village. They decided to trick him into giving up the goat.

However, the thieves did not want to steal the goat by force. They came up with a plan to manipulate the Brahmin into thinking the goat was some other animal. They waited at different points along the road for the Brahmin to pass by.

The first thief approached the Brahmin. He said, “Why are you carrying a dog on your shoulders? Don’t you know it’s unclean for a holy man like you to carry a dog?”

The Brahmin was surprised. He looked at the goat but did not believe the man. He kept going on his way.

The second thief met him a little farther down the road. He said, “Oh my! Why would a learned Brahmin carry a dog on his back? How strange!”

This made the Brahmin start doubting himself. 

“Is this really a dog?” he wondered but kept walking.

Finally, the third thief met the Brahmin. He exclaimed, “How shameful! A holy man like you carrying a filthy dog! What will people think of you?”

Now the Brahmin was convinced that he must have been carrying a dog all along. He threw the goat to the ground and ran away. The thieves happily took it.

This story shows how manipulation works. Manipulation occurs when someone tries to get you to do or think something by tricking you. You don’t realise it is happening. The thieves did not take the goat by force. They made the Brahmin doubt himself by repeating the same false idea. This is how manipulators try to control others. They make you question yourself even when you know the truth. 

Manipulators are everywhere. They often fail to control young people because their parents or teachers are there to protect them. For example, imagine being a kid and someone trying to sell you a “magic” light by claiming its battery will never run out. Your parents will tell you that such a battery does not exist. However, you may have to face these situations alone as an adult. So, you need to learn how to identify manipulators and guard yourself against them.

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

Think like an Ant

When was the last time you thought about ants? Yes, ants—those tiny, seemingly insignificant creatures that crawl around your garden or sneak into your picnic, always showing up in hordes. It’s easy to overlook them or dismiss them as mere pests. But have you ever paused to observe them? Take a moment the next time you see an ant, and you will notice something fascinating. They are always busy, whether they are carrying food back to their colony, building intricate anthills, or even fighting off rivals. These little creatures are constantly in action, working tirelessly, and they never seem to stop. 

While many people see ants as nothing more than an irritation to tolerate, you can actually learn a powerful life lesson from them. You might be wondering how such a small, insignificant insect could teach you anything of value. The answer is surprisingly simple. You often look to the greats—successful people, major events, and grand experiences—to learn how to improve yourself, how to succeed, and how to unlock the secrets of life. But sometimes, the greatest lessons come from the smallest and most overlooked things in your environment. And the lesson you can learn from ants? It's one of survival. 

Ants are some of the best survivors in nature. They may be tiny, but their survival strategy is brilliant. You may wonder how something so small could be so effective, and it’s because they follow a simple, yet powerful, process. Jim Rohn, a well-known motivational speaker, called this process the "Ant Philosophy," and he identified four key lessons you can learn from these determined little creatures. Let’s take a look at those lessons. 

Lesson 1: Ants Never Quit 

You can learn a lot from ants when it comes to persistence. Ants don't know how to quit. If you observe an ant heading toward a destination and try to block its path, it won't hesitate to find another way. It will climb over obstacles, crawl under barriers, or navigate around them. No matter how many times you obstruct them, they don't stop moving forward. They refuse to give up and will always search for another route to reach their goal. 

Even if you destroy their ant hill, they will rebuild it over and over. Kick them away from your food, and they will come back again and again. The determination of ants is relentless. The lesson here for you is simple: Never quit. When life presents obstacles or challenges, keep looking for new ways to achieve your goals. Just like ants, you should develop the mindset that no hurdle is final. Keep pushing forward, adapting to the situation, and eventually, you will succeed. 

Lesson 2: Think Winter in Summer 

Ants are masters at thinking ahead. During the summer, they are fully aware that the warm, abundant days won’t last forever. They know winter is coming, and they prepare for it well in advance. While the sun is shining and food is plentiful, ants gather their resources for the tough months ahead. They don’t waste time enjoying the present without consideration for the future. 

This behavior teaches you the importance of planning ahead. When things are going well, don’t assume that they will always stay that way. Prepare yourself for potential downturns. In your life, you can take advantage of the good times by saving, learning, and preparing for periods of uncertainty. You must learn to think ahead, knowing that nothing lasts forever, and make sure you are ready for whatever comes next. 

Lesson 3: Think Summer in Winter 

On the flip side, ants also keep a positive outlook during the winter months. Even when the conditions are harsh, and food is scarce, ants don’t dwell on their current misery. They tell themselves, "This won’t last forever; summer will be here soon." Instead of giving in to despair, they remain patient and optimistic, knowing that better times are just around the corner. 

This mindset is invaluable for you to adopt. When you find yourself in difficult circumstances, remind yourself that they are temporary. Stay positive and know that every challenge will eventually pass. By focusing on the future and maintaining a hopeful outlook, you will be ready to embrace new opportunities when they arise. As soon as the first sign of better times appears, just like ants emerging on the first warm day, you should be prepared to jump into action and make the most of it. 

Lesson 4: Gather All You Possibly Can 

Ants don’t stop when they have gathered “enough.” During the summer, they work tirelessly to collect as much food as possible. They don’t set a limit for themselves and then relax. If there is more to be gathered, they will work extra hours to ensure they have everything they need to survive the winter. Ants don't believe in halfmeasures; they give it their all. 

For you, the lesson is clear: Don’t limit yourself when working toward your goals. Gather all the knowledge, resources, and experience you can. Push beyond what you think is “enough” and strive to achieve more. If there’s an opportunity to improve or advance further, don’t hold back. Go the extra mile and make the most of your time and effort. Just like ants, you should work with dedication and persistence, ensuring that you are fully prepared for whatever lies ahead.

Summary – Applying the Ant Philosophy to Your Life The Ant Philosophy offers you powerful lessons that can be applied to your everyday life. If you adopt the mindset of never giving up, always looking ahead, staying positive, and doing everything in your power to achieve your goals, you will find success. While average people often focus on when they can stop working or when they can take a break, successful people are constantly looking for the next step, the next challenge, and how to keep moving forward. This shift in mindset can make all the difference in your journey. 

When you make the transition from wanting to quit to embracing the effort and pushing ahead, you open up endless possibilities for yourself. Every day becomes an opportunity to do something meaningful and wonderful, to make progress toward your goals. You can transform your life by maintaining persistence and a proactive attitude, much like the ants who never stop seeking ways to overcome obstacles. 

Always keep in mind the importance of taking advantage of good times when they come. The saying "Make Personal hay while the sun shines" is a valuable reminder for you. Opportunities and favorable conditions don’t last forever, so you should seize them when they arise. Similarly, bad times won’t last forever either. Just as ants prepare during the summer for the winter ahead, and remain positive during the winter in anticipation of better days, you too should be mindful that both highs and lows are temporary. With this mindset, you can navigate life’s ups and downs with resilience, knowing that perseverance will eventually lead to success. 

Finally, we can end this article with a quote by Robert Schuller - Most people who succeed in the face of seemingly impossible conditions are people who simply don’t know how to quit.