KICK OUT THE 3 EVIL C’s, WELCOME THE 3 POSITIVE P’s
Happiness is something all of us seek, but very often we unknowingly block our own path to it. One big reason is the kind of energy we give and receive in our daily lives. Our interactions—what we say, how we react, and how we behave—deeply affect both ourselves and others. While we all want positive energy from people around us, we often forget that our own actions also send out energy that either uplifts or drains others.
To truly become positive, we must consciously get rid of the three evil C’s: Complain, Compare, and Criticise. These three habits not only spoil relationships but also reduce our own happiness and peace of mind.
What are the three evil C’s?
The three evil C’s—complain, compare, and criticise—are habits that trap us in negativity. When these dominate our thoughts and actions:
● We start competing unnecessarily with friends, peers, and relatives.
● We complain about situations rather than working towards solutions.
● We criticise people instead of supporting them.
These behaviours may seem small, but they silently damage our friendships, lower our confidence, disturb our focus, and add unnecessary pressure to life.
1. What is Complaining?
Complaining is expressing dissatisfaction about things, often without taking steps to improve them. It’s easy to complain, but it doesn’t solve the problem—it only amplifies our frustration.
Life is full of unexpected situations, and not everything will go as planned. The real test is how we respond:
■ Do we complain endlessly, focusing on the negatives?
■ Or do we adapt, stay calm, and try to find solutions?
People who complain constantly fail to see opportunities. On the other hand, those who learn to accept and adjust radiate positivity and inspire others.
2. What is Comparing?
Comparison is natural—we all do it. Sometimes it’s even useful, like comparing products before buying the best one. But when it comes to people, comparison can be harmful.
Each individual is unique. When we compare ourselves with others—whether it’s marks, skills, looks, or achievements—we only bring unhappiness. Someone will always be better at something, and that’s okay.Instead of comparing, we should:
■ Focus on our own strengths.
■ Celebrate our uniqueness.
■ Work on developing our talents.
Remember: Your biggest competitor is not someone else, but the person you were yesterday.
3. What is Criticising?
Criticism, when negative, is the most harmful of the three C’s. It is about finding faults in others, pulling them down, or making their efforts look small.
Often, criticism stems from jealousy or insecurity. For example:
■ A friend scores better in a test—you dismiss it as luck instead of appreciating their hard work.
■ A classmate joins dance classes—you laugh at their mistakes instead of encouraging their enthusiasm.
Such behavior damages trust, friendships, and confidence. Constructive feedback is healthy, but destructive criticism spreads only negativity.
How to Get Rid of the Three Evil C’s?
The good news is that these habits can be changed. Here’s how:
1. Replace Complaining with Gratitude:
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, think about what’s right. A gratitude journal—writing down three good things every day—can train your mind to see positives.
2. Replace Comparing with Self-Improvement:
Compete with yourself, not others. Set personal goals and measure your progress. This way, every achievement, however small, feels meaningful.
3. Replace Criticising with Encouragement:
Encourage and appreciate people for their efforts. A simple “Well done!” or “Keep going, you’re improving!” can make someone’s day and strengthen bonds.
Final Thoughts: The three evil C’s—complain, compare, and criticise—might seem harmless in the moment, but over time they steal our peace, positivity, and happiness. By consciously avoiding them, we not only become better individuals but also spread positivity in our families, classrooms, and communities.
Life is too short to waste on negativity. Choose gratitude over complaints, self-growth over comparisons, and encouragement over criticism. In doing so, you’ll find that happiness isn’t something you chase—it’s something you create.
✨ Happiness begins when we let go of the three evil C’s and embrace the three positive P’s: Peace, Progress, and Positivity.
